Coping with Memories of Grief and Loss During Hannukah

By: Danny Amoruccio
Tuesday, December 13, 2022

Even while the holidays are a powerful reminder of our losses, they are also an appropriate time to remember and celebrate the lives of those we have lost. Dealing with a loss during Hannukah can hurt as you reflect on happier times and bring up dear ones who are no longer in your life. Still, on the other, it can be meaningful and comforting to express our eternal love for those we miss so much, especially on such momentous occasions.

Ways To Deal With Loss During Hannukah

In honor of your loved one, Willowbrook Cemetery offers these suggestions on ways to honor their life and legacy during this year's Hanukkah celebration.

1. Telling Stories by the Lights

After the menorah is lit, many people follow tradition by praying and singing. This is an excellent opportunity to talk about past loved ones. A great way to honor the memory of those who have departed is to hear their favorite stories about them. The mere use of the person's name carries a heavy and profound significance. Pass the 'thanks' around and share stories of the deceased's impact on your life. Talk about how exceptional moments and affection are immutable and can never be taken away.

2. Display A Picture Of Your Dear One

Do you have any pictures of your beloved one that was shot during the holidays? Could there be a picture of that individual at a menorah lighting? Put that treasured photo next to the candle you just lit. It is appropriate to reflect on our heritage and history during the holiday of Hanukkah. This is also true in terms of our own life. Displaying a photo of the deceased can also act as a conversation starter, prompting you and those around you to talk about them and perhaps bring up a memorable recollection. This will significantly aid in healing with loss during Hannukah.

3. A Private Prayer Following the Lighting of the Candles

Spiritual beliefs in Judaism suggest that praying during a candle's flickering is a good sign. We can pray privately for our loved ones in the glow of the menorah's flames. Weeping and sorrow could be an outcome. Allow yourself to cry if you need to. Your feelings of sadness are a normal and appropriate response to your loss. Grief experts agree that allowing oneself to feel the pain, rather than continually trying to avoid it, can help one cope with the loss and ultimately feel better.

For more information about coping with memories of grief and loss during Hannukah, call Willowbrook Cemetery can help you pick the ideal final resting place for the departed soul at our serene cemetery. Please get in touch with us today.

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